I recently reconnected with two friends. At the end of both conversations, I found ourselves saying, “We should connect more!”
Then I wonder: how much is optimal?
Interestingly, the conversations are enjoyable precisely because we don’t connect often. Every topic is fresh. All stories are intriguing. Questions flow.
If we meet up every day, it won’t be as enriching.
A relationship wilts if there is no contact. But too much time together risks staleness or even conflicts. Presence is essential, and so is absence.
Balancing closeness and distance is an art. It requires ongoing experimentation. What applies to me may not apply to you. What works today may not work tomorrow.
There’s no one-size-fits-all.
But if we get the balance right, the relationship thrives.