Most of us want to spend time what matters. The challenge is most of us leads a busy life. When much is going on everyday, it’s easy to get distracted. We end up unconsciously diverting our attention to the things that don’t serve us.
How can we dedicate more time to the activities that help us connect with ourselves, our loved ones, and the broader world? One practice has helped me: build a ritual. I have used this simple framework to create a few rituals over the years. Basically:
- Set intentions on the important activities important
- Bring full presence and undivided attention
- Repeat the above at the same time every day, week, or month
My morning ritual is dedicated to spiritual growth and creative work. The intention is to observe my thoughts, train my focus, and start my day with peace. This time is reserved for brain-stretching exercises that are best with a clear mind: reflect on my life, write on this blog, and create new work. My morning looks like this:
- Workout for 3 minutes (to wake up my body)
- Make my favorite oolong tea after I wake up (to start my day with joy)
- Meditate/pray for 10 minutes (to be inspired)
- Review my last day for 5 minutes (to reflect)
- Write for 20+ minutes (to create meaningful work)
My evening ritual is dedicated to family and health. The intention is to nourish my body with healthy food, spend time with family, and create space to wind down for the day.
- Cook simple food after work
- Say a short prayer to give thanks
- Have dinner with my wife at the dining table
- Clean up right away*
- Put away electronics an hour before bed
- Read a physical book or magazine
Rituals can also be weekly and monthly. While not every week looks like this, here are some common themes:
- Fridays: Do something fun with my family and/or close friends, e.g. watch a movie or play board games
- Saturdays: Do vigorous exercise, e.g. biking or basketball
- Monthly: Meet up with the same group of friends every 4-6 weeks.
The payoff of these rituals can be tremendous. I find myself spending less time wondering what I should do. Instead, I stack up a series of habits that add to my health, relationships, and well-being. Along the way, I discover more joy, meaning, and purpose in the simple things I do every day.